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We get to discover practical ways to talk to girls, starting with an acceptance of who she really is, and appreciating that she is a valuable human being with some good characteristics…
One of the things that I consistently hear from my students is that they really struggle with girls. They really struggle with getting courage to talk with women, because they really do not feel that there is any value in interacting with an attractive girl.
On the other hand, there are practical reasons for developing greater courage with women. I want to share some of these practical reasons with you now, and I’ll especially discuss why you need to get over your shyness and start developing your social skills.
Because, I believe, shyness comes from a lack of social skills, and mastery of those skills. I could make it sound more complicated, but why? The important reason is that shyness isappiness.
Shyness comes from a lack of comfort, and from fear. I’m sure you will immediately answer your own question. If you don’t need to talk with women, then there is no reason to be shy. Yet, if you are shy because you don’t want to be rejected by a beautiful girl, then that’s a real gloom-boy situation.
Guess what? You can overcome shyness with girls. No need to have some big drawn-out self-talk convo or some long list of affirmations, just a few changes in attitude. Start believe that you deserve to talk with women, and that it’s okay to talk to women and get everything you want.
Start off with women who YOU wouldn’t talk with if your self esteem and confidence were in jewels. Women who YOU wouldn’t talk with if you didn’t think you were good enough.
One of my favorite tools for learning how to talk to girls is my E-book, “connecting with girls”.
I should say “anywhere”, because some guys need the “Working Girl’s Secret” and the “Secret society of knights”. The “connecting with girls” community is not only for losers. We have different rules. And we don’t all think that we are the same.
Watch out, there is a big difference between “points from peers” and “points of belief”. To get the most out of the social life, you must have a healthy understanding of how to Criteria according to the reality you live in.
And this is the hard part. Most people will WONDER how to find the PUA community, when the biggest criticism in the community is about how there not enough women in it, or this and that, but our rules are different. If you are not part of the “little clique”, then there are brothers who develop some of the same skills as you, and that’s the beauty of the PUA community. You can share your beliefs, and learn from the best minds in the community.
What I’m trying to say, in a very simple terms is that having a healthy positive mind-set, and not caring what others think of you makes you a very attractive man.
All those who are legitimately practicing and improving their social skills, I strongly encourage you to continue. Learning how to talk to girls is not, ultimately, about learning tricks or playing mind games. Ultimately it is about developing a better interaction, and creating the conditions for social success.
So until next time, I wish you well on your path to better social skills, and happy dating!
