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Relationships Online – Some people overshare their relationships on social media, and they do it for different reasons.
For example, they may want to make others feel like their relationship is exceptional or that their partner cares about them. Or they may be insecure about their partners and need external validation to feel good about themselves.
What is the TRUTH?
The TRUTH About People Who Post Their Relationships Online
It’s no secret that social media can play a big part in navigating and sharing the details of your personal life. About eight in ten (81%) Americans who use social media say they occasionally see other people posting about their relationships, including 46% who say it happens often. But, surprisingly, only about one in three say that seeing these posts has made them feel better about their love lives.
The reason may be that many people who post about their relationships are unhappy with them. The reasons can be many, including insecurity about the relationship, envy or guilt from other people’s successes in romance, and fear of being judged by others.
The best news is that there are a few different ways to choose what you want to share. Using your judgment and trusting yourself will help you determine what’s right for you. If you’re happy and healthy in your current relationship, it doesn’t make sense to share it with the world (unless you’re looking for a new one or are dating someone who wants it). But if you’re feeling stuck in the past, consider a change of scenery. What if you could reconnect with your true self, partner, and the world in one prominent happy place?
The TRUTH About Posting About Your Relationship
When it comes to posting your relationship online, there are several things you should keep in mind. You should avoid sharing too many details about your relationship online, or you could end up with many unwelcome comments on your profile and posts.
It’s easy to get caught up in showing off your body or clothes. Still, it would be best to be careful not to over-post and reveal too much of your personal life on social media, advises Dr Kersi Chavda, a consultant psychiatrist from Hinduja Healthcare Surgical Hospital, India. You should also choose the photos you post carefully and never show any skin or other details about yourself that you wouldn’t want anyone to see.
Keeping your relationship private means prioritising the intimacy and peace of mind that your partner brings to your life above the validation of strangers. Experts say it also means sharing only a few details about your love life that can cause others to question your relationship’s authenticity.
According to a study from Shotkit, people who share a couple’s content, like photos, stories and videos, on their social media are more likely to report that they have an unhappy relationship than those who don’t. The researchers found that “people who regularly post couples content have a greater likelihood of reporting less intimate, more distant relationships than those who don’t.”
Insecure couples are also more likely to post about their relationship on social media because they think it will make them appear happy and secure. However, happy couples post less because they don’t seek to prove they are so glad and show their love in private, intimate ways.
It can be tempting to show off your relationship on Instagram or Facebook because you can’t wait to share it with the world, but this isn’t the best idea. It can put pressure on your partner to be perfect for everyone else, and it could lead to your relationship becoming less authentic, says Dr Jane Greer, a New York-based relationship expert and author of What About Me?
The TRUTH About Posting About Your Partner
In today’s world, social media can feel like a pressure cooker. It’sGetting caught up in posting every detail of your life online and looking for validation that you are living up to everyone’s expectations is easy. But this can do more harm to your relationship than good.
In one study, researchers found that people who post a lot about their relationships online were less satisfied with how they turned out. These posts may boost your ego, but they also can cause you to put pressure on yourself and your partner to live up to other people’s expectations of you.
A person who has a highly narcissistic personality is more likely to post about their relationships. According to the University of Kansas’s Jane Greer, they may want to show off their relationship to their friends and family. She adds that “people with a high narcissistic inclination often use their relationships as a way to gain approval from others.”
But if you post about your relationship consistently, experts say it could be a sign of two things: You’re insecure or embarrassed about your love life. Or, you’re attempting to impress other people by portraying a perfect relationship on social media, says Samantha Bennett, PhD, a relationship expert in New York City.
Posting about your relationship only when you’re having a great time together could be a sign of a healthy relationship. But if you’re not posting about your relationship at all, it could be a sign that you’re not as emotionally invested in it as you should be, Bennett warns.
Another thing that can be a red flag about someone posting about their relationship online is if they have a lot of negative comments about other people or groups. They can be abrasive, abusive or even downright hostile in their remarks or online behaviour.
They can be offensive to people who are different from them in race, religion, creed, sexuality or social status. This can be a huge red flag and should not be ignored. It’s damaging to your relationship and could lead to you and your partner feeling resentful towards each other.
The TRUTH About Posting About Yourself
Many people post their relationships on social media, from publishing their relationship status in their profile to putting up photos of themselves with their partner. These are all standard romantic displays used to express their feelings about their love lives and feel more connected to their partners.
However, it’s essential to understand the motives behind these behaviours. Research shows that these displays may not be purely about connecting with your partner but also serve as a way to protect your relationship from outside threats.
Some people share about their relationships to boost their self-esteem and gain the approval of others. According to a study by Albright College, this is known as Relationship Contingent Self-Esteem (RCSE). These people believe that a successful relationship is a vital indicator of their worth. They are also likelier to post mushy, adoring comments on their partner’s Facebook wall.
If your friend or partner posts much about her relationship on social media, it can be a sign of a deeper problem. She may struggle with relationship insecurity or fear that her partner doesn’t love her.
Or, she could be suffering from an attachment disorder – an insecure or anxious style of bonding – that needs external validation to help her feel secure about her partner. These people often over-share on social media to get the reassurance they need, but this can lead to unhealthy attachment and low self-esteem if their relationship doesn’t work out.
Another reason your friend might be oversharing about her relationship is that she’s worried someone will be interested in her or her partner. Dean says that she has seen instances where someone posts a photo of themselves with their partner, and their followers comment that they “had been talking to him” or claim that the man was cheating on them.
Regardless of the reason, oversharing is always a bad idea and can make you and your partner feel even more isolated than you already are. Besides violating your partner’s privacy, it can cause you to become more focused on yourself and less on your relationship, experts say.
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